Why We Shout in Anger?

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.'
'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.
Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'
Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'
The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return

Hand Shake - An Art

Question: What do men do standing, ladies do sitting down and dogs do on three legs? Answer: Shake hands.

The act of shaking hands, customarily the right hand, is the most often used semi-formal introduction in modern culture. It is a familiar gesture to establish kinship and to make the foray into conversation more fluid.

Typically, men treat a handshake differently to women. To women, it is nothing more than a polite gesture of introduction. To men, it can be a show of strength, akin to arm wrestling

1. The ideal handshake should be strong and firm, not limp, like a wet lettuce.
Origins of Shaking Hands

The handshake is an ancient form of greeting; there are a few different explanations concerning the origins of the handshake. However they all have the same theme, to declare that both parties were unarmed, while at the same time keeping each other at arm's length.
One version is that the hand was not originally shaken, the right hand was opened and displayed, to show that it contained no weapon; the shaking of the hand developed later. Another variant is that the shaking of the hand was to displace any weapons which may have been hidden up the sleeve. Yet another suggests that while the right hand was used for shaking, the

left hand was used to 'pat down' the other person's arm to ensure there were no hidden weapons.

Reasons for Shaking Hands

The most common reason for a handshake that of introduction, whether it is between friends or business associates. A handshake can be used at the start and the end of a business meeting. As a race, we're not content with mere verbal introduction. Saying 'hello' doesn't make the same impression as grabbing someone's hand, pumping it up and down and smiling in a disarming manner. It is critically important that you do not wince if the person you're introducing yourself to is crushing your hand

2. They will never respect you if you do.
A handshake can be used as a congratulatory gesture at award ceremonies. This could be anything from a school child being presented a certificate in a school assembly to a celebrity winning an Oscar at a lavish event.

Sealing the agreement of an informal or provisional contract or confirming a bet can be achieved by a simple handshake; an uncouth way to seal an agreement is to

spit on the hand before shaking. A handshake can also be used to signify the end of an argument, conflict or the beginning of a truce.

However, it should be remembered that not all cultures use handshaking as an acceptable greeting gesture. In some cultures and religions, shaking hands with someone of the opposite sex is viewed as offensive, and an offered hand may be refused. Bowing,

kissing one or both cheeks, hugging and even rubbing noses are acceptable greetings to some cultures. You should know which custom is appropriate before you approach a person to greet them.
Handshaking Language

The position of the hand offered for shaking can be an indication hierarchy, albeit temporary in a given situation.

Palm down - A sign of authority; by forcing the other person to offer their hand palm up, the hand-shaker is saying 'I'm superior to you'.

Palm vertical - The most common, demonstrates equality, cooperation, friendship and trust.
Palm up - Suggesting a subliminal message that the other person is in control. Sometimes used by sales people to gain the other person's confidence.

Different Types of Handshaking

There are two basic forms of handshaking, formal and informal. Formal is the business meeting and interview standard handshake. Informal is used for social gatherings with family and friends, these are the handshakes used with added touching and affection.

Secret Handshake -

Secret societies such as the Freemasons have their own unique handshake. Secret handshakes are also devised and used by children's group and teenage gangs to identify members.

The Boss-Shake - The hand-shaker approaches with his hand held out horizontally, palm facing down. The employee is expected to turn their hand so that it is facing palm up, and so shake from a position of weakness.

The Counter - Place your hand similarly horizontally, palm down, and place it on top of boss's hand. Proceed to shake it

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The Sandwich - Standard handshake, with the addition of the hand-shaker covering the back of the person's hand with their other hand.

Sexual Invitation - While shaking hands, the male strokes the palm of the other person's hand with his index finger. A repeated tug on the index or middle finger indicates an affirmative reply.

Practical Joker's - Outstretch your hand as if to shake, then, at the last moment, whip it away, place your thumb to your nose, and wiggle your fingers.

Shake'n'Hug - Approach and clasp hands. Pull the other person toward yourself and hug with the other hand.

Hug'n'Shake Variation - The free hand can pat the other person on the back instead of a full-fledged hug.

Shake'n'Kiss - The same as above, with a kiss instead of a hug.

Vicar-Shake - Standard handshake with the addition of the handshake's other hand surrounding the person's shoulder or back, as if escorting parishioners on the way out of a chapel.

Why People Lie!!

The dog ate my homework.
That dress really looks good on you.

LIES…!! We hear them everywhere. Be it from the mouth of a politician glossing over the facts or a desperate student trying to cover up for his night of hedonism and disregard for homework, lies are being told all over the place by just about everybody you can name.

What Is a Lie?

A lie is an untruth, a deviation, big or small, from what is known to be real. It is a false statement deliberately presented as being true, thus misrepresenting a situation or giving a totally wrong impression about something.
There are generally two types of lies - white lies, which do little or no damage, and black lies, which can do detriment to the deceiver or the deceived when the truth is found out.

The People who Lie

Everybody lies. Admit it - you do as well. There is probably not a single person who has ever lived who has not once in his life told a falsehood or misrepresented the truth, regardless of whether it was unintentional or if he told it so that someone else's feelings would not be hurt - or if he did it for more sinister reasons.
According to Dr John J Busak, Professor of Psychiatry and Director of the Neuropsychiatry Center at the University of New Delhi, the pathology of lying is not as simple as it may seem. Investigations have shown that there are those who are genetically predisposed towards lying and deceit. Studies of twins and extended families have suggested that these genetic components are transmitted vertically. Biological conditions such as learning disabilities and certain forms of non-specific cerebral dysfunction have also been associated with pathological lying.

But biology is not the only factor behind lying. The environmental factor in childhood also plays an important role in determining whether or not a person grows up to be a chronic liar. Those who come from chaotic and dysfunctional families have a greater tendency to lie than those who grew up in a caring household. Busak hypothesises that children from such families lie to change or modify reality so as to make life more tolerable - that in this case, lying becomes a strategy of coping with the hostile environment.

Discipline also seems to play a role in encouraging or discouraging lying. Severe punishment for misdemeanours paradoxically encourage deception, as the child realises a need to get out of punishment by any means possible. Inconsistent punishments for lying or the total absence of punishment will also encourage the child to lie. And punishing a child for lying and then getting caught lying yourself will do nothing to help the situation.

Interestingly, it is not only humans who lie - if 'lying' is synonymous with presenting anything other than the truth, be it intentional or unintentional. In fact, lying seems to be something every living creature in this world is familiar with. The bee orchid, for instance, with its bee-like colouring and pattern, lures bees to mate with it, thus propagating its seed to other bee orchids. The angler fish lies at the bottom of the sea, luring prey to it with curious (and probably delicious-looking) protrusions hanging from its head. Butterflies during the Industrial Revolution evolved to become soot-coloured so that they would blend in nicely with their sooty surroundings, thus escaping the jaws of predators. Stick insects do likewise, by appearing to be twigs.

Of course, for the sake of remaining faithful to this topic1, we will stick to deliberate lies told by people in a multitude of situations, and leave the animals alone.

Music, Happiness, and the Brain

Have you ever come home after a long, hard day and turned on music to de-stress? Do you associate music with different types of emotions (i.e. "I listen to Green Day when I'm angry.")? Do you find it impossible to sit still while listening to a certain type of music? Have you ever wondered why this happens? So have I. Ask most people to listen to music in a fast tempo and they will probably say that it makes them feel happier, recall happy memories, and/or make them want to dance. Give the same people slow music in a major key, and they will say, most likely, that it makes them relax, that such music is good for meditation. On the same line, slow music in a minor key makes people feel sad and possibly recall sad memories. If most people are asked to listen to dissonant music in a fast tempo, their most likely response will be fear.(1) To a certain degree, dissonance is dependent on culture, but there is a theory that dissonance sounds abrasive to listeners of any culture. Studies have demonstrated that babies as young as four months old react negatively to dissonant music. (2) For any piece of music, the way it is experienced by each listener is often entirely different. One could hear Saint-Saens The Dying Swan (a slow piece for solo cello) and literally picture the swan and it expires, while another could be picturing the time she danced to the piece for a ballet class or the time she played it for an audience. Either way, this piece is very moving and paints a graphic picture for the listener. However, for the listener picturing the poor swan, the reaction and memory associations would be very different than for the dancer or the cellist. It is a fact, as much as facts can exist, that the right kind music releases endorphins. This causes relief of pain, and if there is no pain, happiness, pleasure. (3) It has also been shown that music can induce sleep by convincing the brain to release melatonin. This can be seen visibly in listeners to whom a relaxing piece of music is being played. For many people, music that has an intrinsic feeling of pleasure associated with it can cause a listener to become motivated to do something. (4) These pieces have no other memories attached to them, but, interestingly, when they are played, the areas of the brain that are stimulated are those that are also stimulated by food, sex, and drugs. This could imply that there is a connection between these things and the way that music is processed by the brain. What is it that makes music so intensely powerful? We may never really know. As much as we can quantify the responses the brain produces when we listen to music, we cannot yet explain why they happen.
Below is the Chart that helps you, if you are a listener of Indian Classical Music. A summary of the table is:

Time: The time at which raga should be listened
Raga: Name of the Raga should be listened at the mentioned Time of the day

Benefit: The benefit you get if you listen the Raga at mentioned time of the day

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